My top advise for new moms

My top advise for new moms

So one thing that I really want to talk about and get off my chest is advise for new moms. This is something that I dealt with my whole pregnancy and the first year of my sons life. Everybody is going to give their own two sense about your child. When I mean everyone I mean everyone. While some advise is great, however, some of it is not so great. At first it was irritating but I’ve learned a few things a long the way.

The first thing is that you don’t have to please anyone. What I mean by that is you don’t have to say yeah I will do that. You can say flat out say no or say sorry but that doesn’t work for us parents. For example, when I was pregnant a lot of people told me oh you should get him pacifiers. I flat out said no because for one thing it will mess up his teeth and for another it will be a power struggle to get him off of them. However, when I had him he had to have a pacifier when he had jaundice to keep himself “occupied” so he wouldn’t pull down his mask while under Billie Rubin lights. I only let him have it then and after he came off of the lights I took away the pacifier because it was causing all of us sleep issues. It took him a few days to adjust but he was fine without it and we all slept better without it.

Secondly, you are the parent you know your child best. If you don’t like what someone is doing to your child or the unsolicited advise that they are giving you just say hey I’m the parent I’ll decide what is best for my kid. Better yet I would say that’s something that is between me and their pediatrician.

Lastly and most importantly follow your gut. If you agree to whatever advice is given to you then that’s great but if you don’t then that’s okay too. Just remember at the end of the day that you are the parent.

Overall, that is your child. As mom to mom and parent to parent no one knows how that kid is better than you. Take every piece of advise with a grain of salt.

My Covid baby one year on

My Covid baby one year on

So my son was born during the height of covid in 2020. I never would have thought that when I first got pregnant with him that he would be born during a pandemic. Like many other moms in 2020 I had so many plans of bringing him places and doing things with him that were shattered because of the pandemic.

If you would have asked me before covid who would I have liked to be with me at the hospital I would have said my family and friends. That didn’t happen. Instead it was just me and my husband. In some ways I did like it because we got to bond with him but in other ways I did not. It would have been nice to have someone their to help me out while my husband went back home to shower and eat.

When the whole pandemic started I heard on the radio one morning that this pandemic is going to take a toll on our mental state of minds for both adults and children. What they didn’t mention are the covid babies.

In my past career I was a Montessori teacher for toddlers. I’m used to being around kids that are active and a little bit socially mature both in and outside of school The thing that I find interesting about the pandemic is that all these babies that were and still are being sheltered are a lot more cautious when meeting new people or going out in general. When I’ve spoken with other covid moms that had babies in 2020 they have noticed the same reactions even if their child was their second baby. Every time my son meets new people or relatives he hasn’t seen in over 2 weeks he does this face that makes him look like he is mad. It’s honestly a funny and cute looking face though. It’s also kind of a sad reality that masks are normal for him outside of our house. Having a covid born baby is making me wonder what effects this is going to have on them mentally and socially later on down the line.

I will say though that the only good thing about being pregnant during a pandemic is the 6 feet away part because that kept people from touching me while pregnant. However, I’m hoping that the last part of 2021 and 2022 will allow us all to hopefully go back to somewhat normal.

Our gardening Journey week 2

Our gardening Journey week 2

So I’m going to start off by saying wow some of these plants are growing fast. However, I think I will have to start over with the others. My goal is to become somewhat self sustainable and cut down on grocery costs when it comes to vegetables. I also want to teach my son about the beauty of our world.

Some of the pods look like they have mold growing in them. I will be removing the cucumbers and the other plants that have already sprouted from this container.

I’ve grown fruits and vegetables before but I wouldn’t say that I’m an expert by any means. I am defiantly going to have to pot some of these this week. I am also going to have to retry seeding my perennials and green beans.

I’ve planted green beans, sweet William perennials, cucumbers, Johnny pop ups perennials, sweetie tomatoes and basil. So far the basil, tomatoes, and cucumbers are growing. If you have any tips or tricks to get green beans or perennials to grow please let me know in the comments below

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